i’ve been trying to wrap my head around something in these past couple days. bumping into alcohol again makes me feel pretty badly about myself, which is irrational, i know, but so it is anyhow. i feel like mud.
but then someone said something so SO nice about me, something I am very very proud that could be said about me, not simply because i believe it to be true.
she commented on how strong my support was. and it is. when i love someone, i plant my feet and lean out over the water and face the hurricane down. i really fucking do. and i deeply feel that the people that i love deserve the best that there is. and anything else is unacceptable. it is deeply true and whether that friendship is virtual or not, i fucking think that my people are absolutely golden orbs in the world.
and many of you reading this are those orbs. and when i find someone in need of my support, i plant those feet again, or bring my ass right down to the ground, open my chest and send them all the light and love and fierceness that they need. and most of the time, it is felt. almost always. because the energy around me shifts and the energy of the whole world shifts when that sort of love is shot out.
So what i’ve been grappling with is this… how is it i can feel so lonely but feel so connected? am i waiting for crises to happen to get that connection?
also, it makes it a little bit difficult with the number of people coming in and out of my life as i date. mostly, i will only date them if i feel this love… and i grow this love like the best green-thumbed organic farmer you’ve ever been jealous of…
its been hard to bump into people who don’t want this fierceness. i fundamentally do not understand. its beyond, ‘well we’re not a good match’… i don’t mind that, at all, its true, so far, every single time… 🙂 however, the abiding, the glowing orb love is still there for me, i still would fill the room with my love for any of them. literally. and i don’t want that to change.
i just wonder about it. what is it?
my heart hurts a little. physically, i mean.
i think with the mud feeling comes resentment, which is always a lie, i think. but while i am being lied to, i wonder where i am in this energy surge. . .
its like a cost-benefit analysis, oddly enough. i’ve just marie kondo’d my bedroom and there is a shit-ton of clothing that is out of my life, and old pillows, jewelry and blankets. gone. i mean, so much so i struggled to lift the contractor bag i filled . and the three or four others… and i’m not feeling the lift yet. i ‘m not feeling the ringing of the bells, just the flat affect of a person who now only owns three pair of pants and two leggings and a lot, a lot of skirts. so whats the cost? a day of work, an hour of dropping off. the benefit? mm. um… huh. i did feel glad that someone is going to be completely psyched to see some of my pants on the rack. i did feel that postponed joy…
huh. so this. all this. i’m wondering. and feeling like mud. while surrounded by you lovely orbs.
and if you are thinking, o, its so nice that she loves all her people, i say this to you in all sincerity… nope… its you. its you, too. you get it, you freaking worthy glow-y orb.
19 thoughts on “Golden Orbs and Mud”
YESYESYES to you.
right back at ya.
Glow-y orb. I love it!
I need to look up this Mary Bono person. I’ve seen her name floating around a few times. I totally can relate to your post. I have lots of light in my life but there are days when things feel dark. Grateful for the support I have 🙂
HI Monica. Marie Kondo… it’ll help when looking it up… 🙂 support is a big big thing. glad you’ve got the goodness.
Interesting thoughts! Thank you for the insight!
This is everything. Love it.
I love that you love with everything inside of you. I totally get the lack of return, though ~ be patient. Be you. Don’t stop giving off that positivity. It does matter.
Stay positive and keep loving, the right one will be the one who can handle all that love and wants more 🙂
thanks katie… burning the candles… 🙂
This is a great reminder about how powerful love is. Thank you.
This orb gets it and prays things start to get better…that they start to make sense in the mush of emotions..
thanks cara… i read yours too, loved that list of 30 day challenges… tried to comment but got blocked as a suspected bot! 🙂
I feel you. I have days like this also. It’s hard to pull yourself out of it. My best advice: keep moving forward. Sounds like you’ve got a great support great and that is a big part of the battle.
I feel you. Thanks for sharing your thoughts with us.
“How is it I can feel so lonely but feel so connected?” I felt that!